So I have been thinking over the past 2 years about exactly how to propose to Jenn. I have the following ideas:
It would start with a limo pickup of her friend Laura under the pre-text of a day of shopping and dinner/dancing paid for by my new promotion at work. The limo will then pick up Jenn at the apartment and take the two of them to a shopping center. Which shopping center depends on what locations have all the stores to provide a completely new outfit for Jenn to be wearing when I propose that night at dinner. I will provide a gift card to Laura with enough money to cover a new dress, shoes, hair/makeup and accessories for Jenn. I will also give a little to Laura to enjoy the day and not just be a chaperon. I am hoping to find a mall with a WhiteHouse/BlackMarket, nail and hair salon and Macy’s. The girls will have all afternoon to get pretty and dressed up. Jenn will think it is for a nice dinner and then going to a lounge/club in Hollywood to party.
West Restaurant & Lounge
The limo will take them to West a restaurant on the 17th floor of Hotel Angeleno in Los Angeles. It is the round looking hotel next to the 405 freeway near the Getty Center. I love the views from high floor restaurants. There once was a restaurant called “Windows” at the top of the former Transamerica building in downtown Los Angeles that I loved to go to. However now that restaurant has been converted into several top floor condos. Other restaurants which were under consideration were Encounter at LAX (the alien looking building) and a steak house LA Prime on the top of the Los Angeles Bonaventure Hotel. I chose West because of the view of the freeway and Westwood. Jenn and Laura will meet me and Jenn’s mom Marge for dinner at West where I will propose as she arrives at the table. We will all have a lovely dinner, talk, laugh and enjoy the view.
After dinner, Marge will drive Laura home and Jenn and I will stay at the Hotel Angeleno for the night and drive home in my car the next day. Breakfast in bed, relaxing by the pool and being together on our first day of the rest of our lives together. This is my plan, this is my hope and I hope to have it pulled together soon.
Well this last Friday, April 30th, I asked Jenn’s mom Marge for permission to marry Jenn. I was given a resounding yes. It was a very awkward moment for me to be doing so. I am sure it will feel better when I ask Jenn. My heart will be pounding for sure at that moment. Apparently over the weekend Jenn said that Marge couldn’t stop giving me enough praise. I hope Marge keeps her secret. I know her and Jenn talk on a daily basis, well more like an hourly basis. So it will be interesting to see how long Marge can keep this under wraps. I also need to move on to my next phase which is planning the event. I will be sure to write more about that later. As for now, I am just glad I got the “A OK” from mom. I feel that is the best way to do it since Jenn and her mother are so close.
White Gold Wedding Set
I have just got back from the Jewelry Exchange where I had the ring cleaned and re-plated in rhodium. The ring is very shiny and I hope to upload some images soon to show the ring to everyone, and of course you will all see it when it is on her finger. As for now, I am getting things together to talk to her mom who is down here in OC for a few days. I hope to have some time alone with her and ask for her permission.
Whitehall Jewelers, where the ring was purchased
Back in October 2008, Jenn and I were wandering a mall in Westminster near our apartment. I suggested that we enter the store to look at potential rings for a way, way way in the future purpose (wedding or otherwise). She picked out several and tried them on. A few she liked and a few she loved. We did this sort of thing to benefit me, I would have to pick out a ring eventually and I wanted it to be one she loved. I didn’t want her to just like it, but to love it. I used these jewelry store visits to learn very valuable information about what ring Jenn would eventually want.
- White gold is preferable to yellow gold. Platinum was too expensive she said.
- She likes fancy rings or rings with the tri-diamond setting.
- Her favorite diamond cut is the princess cut for how radiant it is in the light, not for the mere name of the cut.
- She likes ring sets that fit against and not purchased or created separately.
Over the prior weeks and months to the purchase I used the short list of requirements to try and find the perfect ring for Jenn. It was very hard and sometimes quite frustrating. However this evening Jenn found one she loved. I made a mental note of it and we left to store without buying the ring.
While on the way to the car, her and I got into a heated argument about how cruel it was to bring her into jewelry stores only to tease her with trying on rings. I knew that it really helped em to find what she would want, she saw it as teasing her. The end result was that I was no longer going to take her into jewelry stores to look at rings, pearls, bracelets or anything gold, silver or glittery.